I’ve already blogged about my ‘fight’ for a c-section date for this pregnancy. Since last week, when the proposed new guidelines for c-sections were released by NICE, I seem to have been bombarded by other people’s opinions on the matter. I’ve written for iVillage about this and will post a link once the article is live. I’ve also chatted to other bloggers who are also  directly affected by this, and who also feel that they are being misunderstood. In the midst of it all, I was directed to this post, by one of the lovely members of the Birth Trauma Association’s Facebook group:  Don’t tell me I should’ve had a VBAC.

 

I can so relate to this post. Throughout my last pregnancy, I was told over and over again that I should try for a ‘natural’ birth and that I would regret it if I didn’t. I succumbed to the pressure to let nature lead me and I did not get any kind of emotional or psychological support in my reluctant decision. I wish I had had the guts to stand up for my planned section.

Today I called the hospital and spoke to a lovely midwife who has advised me of my next steps. I need to convince my consultant that I deserve an elective section. BUT…

why do I have to state my case like this? Why is my request for a c-section under such scrutiny? Money aside, what exactly has it got to do with the plethora of ridiculous commentators who have been spouting off about this all of a sudden? In the last week or so, many women (and some men) have been giving their two penneth worth about all of this. And why not? Being parents, they have a degree of knowledge in childbirth. Some may even have had a c-section themselves. But they have NOT had my experience (or that of another blogger who springs to mind) and they do not, therefore, have the right to judge.

Yes, a c-section costs more than a natural birth. How much does an emergency section cost? How much does birth trauma counselling cost? Anti-depressants? Repeat post-natal check ups?

The new guidelines aim to give women like me additional support in making a difficult decision. Please don’t think for a second that I don’t wish I could be in and out and back at home with my baby. Please don’t think I am ‘too posh to push’. Please don’t judge my needs on a monetary scale. Please listen to me and my reasons and accept that, for some women, a c-section is the best, most cost-efficient option of all.