The one where you’re no longer a finalist…

I haven’t only just realised this; my brain isn’t that deadened with endless nappy changes and night feeds. Not just yet, anyway. It’s just that I haven’t been able to work out exactly how I want to put this. I still don’t really know. I’m just going to go with the flow.

So the Mads blog award finalists have been announced and, despite being nominated in two categories, I am not a finalist. This means I am no longer a finalist, since I remained a finalist after not winning in my category last year… or something like that. I think I want to blog about this.

I’ve been reading comments here and there and posts like this one from Molly at Mother’s Always Right, which are questioning success in blogging. Molly asks how we define blogging success and my response to her was:

“I think it depends on WHY u blog. I started to raise awareness of birth trauma and to get my own head around what happened. I think most days I am successful.”

Others commented along similar lines and the consensus seems to be that you get out of blogging what you put into it. So how do those bloggers who used to be finalists feel now that they aren’t finalists anymore?

I have to admit that I was a little bit disappointed, but certainly not surprised. Since the winners were announced last year, life has changed immeasurably for me. I kind of had to let blogging step aside to make room for new things. Like babies and things like that. I know I didn’t put into my blog what I had been putting in. I let things go. Oh, I was still writing, but I wasn’t really blogging. To be blogging, you need to be doing a whole lot more than just writing.

I have the utmost respect for those bloggers who are once more finalists in the awards. These are the hardcore bloggers who work damn hard on their blogs and at being bloggers. They read, they comment, they interact, they take part in memes, linkys, campaigns and debates. They dedicated huge amounts of their time towards embracing the blogging community and they are ever evolving and moving their blogs onwards and upwards. I have to say that some bloggers who also did not make the final cut are also doing this. But anyway, much respect to those who are finalists. It’s blummin hard work.
*edit: Also, and this applies to ALL the finalists, each blog that has made the final cut is there due to the outstanding quality of the writing. No matter how much they read, or comment or anything else. Some of those finalists are just as busy as the rest of us and still manage to stand out from the crowd. You have to admire that.
I’ve finally found the time to read once more and I am in awe of the amount of blogs out there. My inbox is now stuffed with new blogs and my timeline is buzzing with posts I need to read. I am commenting more on posts that are springing out to me and I am starting to get myself back into the whole blogging thing again.

So I’m no longer a finalist. But I am still here. And to those of us who also are no longer finalists but are still here, well done. Life gets in the way (new babies, new jobs, new priorities) but at least we still remembered that we love writing and reading and engaging and bloggging.


MAD Blog Awards 2012

This year’s finalists are all pretty awesome. Please take a moment or two to vote for your favourite here. Some of my favourites are:

The Boy and Me

Mammy Woo

SAHM loving it

Diary of a premmy mum

Diary of a first child

Red Ted Art

Northern Mum

Mummy Whisperer

Not my year off



Patch of Puddles

Multiple Mummy

Go take a look…


  1. Merry
    May 17, 2012 / 8:54 am

    To be fair I am a finalist and I don’t put all the effort into going round and commenting. I didn’t have the energy while I was trying to grow a baby that would breathe. I hope I didn’t get my place on a popularity contest. I barely asked for votes. Am delighted to be there but I just write, I don’t really spend the time networking to make it so.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 17, 2012 / 8:56 am

      I think you are thoroughly deserving of being there. I meant to add that some finalists are just blummin good writers and you are in that camp 🙂 Well done!

  2. May 17, 2012 / 9:00 am

    Fabulous post. I think the awards are actually a huge recognition of what we ALL do, not just the finalists – we had over 30,000 votes this week, double the number we had at the same time last year. We tracked that 350,000 people a week were reading the blogs in our awards – that’s AMAZING.

    I love seeing how parent blogging is growing in strength and popularity year to year, and I maintain that someone taking the time to nominate your blog is a great compliment. So congratulations on being nominated, and thanks for highlighting some of our finalists.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 17, 2012 / 9:02 am

      Thanks Sally. I’m only sorry I didn’t give you a mention for all your hard work! And you’re right, over 30,000 nominations is amazing!

  3. May 17, 2012 / 9:15 am

    Awesome post and very sad to not see you there this year but I agree life can get in the way, and to be honest that is as it should be. I have no doubt you will be back next year when things have calmed for you. There are some amazing bloggers in the finals and I am still in shock that I made it this year and so did Science Sparks. It is just a lovely feeling to know that people enjoy what you do. xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 17, 2012 / 9:29 am

      See, now I keep being reminded of other blogs I forgot to mention in my post 🙁 But thanks for your comment and well done to you! *off to edit my post again*

  4. May 17, 2012 / 2:01 pm

    Hi hun, love this post as you make some great points as always.
    I was also a tad saddened not to see u on the list as you wasn’t able to be there last year and I would have loved to have finally met you.
    Still love reading and watching your amazing family grow.
    You will always be on my inspiring list.
    Claire Louise (a boy with Aspergers) xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:25 am

      It’s such a shame we won’t meet! I do read your blog and am going to make a concerted effort to comment more 🙂 Here’s hoping you can repeat your success from last year!

  5. May 17, 2012 / 3:43 pm

    Great post, very honest and well considered. And thank you for the mention. I was a finalist last year but not one this year. I was actually surprised by how disappointed I felt. As you know from the post you linked to, I work hard at blogging, to the extent that I’ve built a new career for myself based on much of my blog. I have better stats and more PR approaches, but it still would’ve been lovely to have made MADs shortlist! But as Sally says, they are a great indication and celebration of blogging generally – all our blogs. And there’s always next year!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:24 am

      Thank you, your post inspired me:) But like you say, success can only be measured by what you actually want from your blog so being an awards finalist is nice but not everything. You have a new job and other opportunities. And yes, there is always next year! Personally I think its a bit of a relief to have a break from the competition for a while!

  6. May 17, 2012 / 5:27 pm

    I’m new to this whole ‘awards’ thing, last year when I started blogging everyone was nattering about The Mads and I wondered what all the fuss is about. I’m sure there’ll be new bloggers right now wondering what the Dickens a lot of us are jabbering on about too!
    I didn’t think for a minute that I’d be bothered about being in the awards and now I very much am – oh how fickle am I ?!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:22 am

      It’s hard to believe you have only been around for a year! I think the blogging world needed someone like you to explode in and whip things up! I really hope you do well as you are another one who works very hard indeed!

  7. May 17, 2012 / 7:46 pm

    Thank you so much for highlighting me in your post, really kind of you. I am so wowed to be in the awards and it means a lot that people even nominated me, let alone voted for me. I am disappointed to not see you in for baby blog, but never mind I still love reading your blog! You’ll always be one of my inspiring blogs.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:21 am

      You’re more than welcome. You are one of the bloggers I mentioned who works pretty damn hard to make your little space lively, interesting and interactive. You certainly deserve to be a finalist! And thank you, as always, for your support 🙂

  8. May 17, 2012 / 7:56 pm

    I can only sympathise, as a no-longer-a-finalist, and I so know what you mean about feeling a bit disappointed. Never mind that I wouldn’t have stood a chance anyway…..But the fact that there are so many amazing blogs out there, so many people that others want to nominate, *that* is amazing. And you have had a few other things on your mind!!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:20 am

      I think its natural to feel disappointed but I certainly was not surprised. And you’re right, there are so many amazing blogs out there it must be pretty hard to choose, so the voting is probably the only way to go.

  9. Beadzoid
    May 17, 2012 / 9:08 pm

    I had no idea the Tots100 received so many votes! That is amazing and I have to confess that I did view it as a little bit of a popularity backslapping thing. Perhaps one should stand corrected 😀

    Sorry you’re no longer a finalist, S. Brave of you to post about it, fair play to you. I think you hit the nail on the head though with your last line. It is about those things, and particularly engagement – that’s what I am constantly trying to improve on my blog. I want people to engage with what I write, that’s what makes ME happy. Give me a healthy good quality comment section over award nominations any day.

    And if you look at the quality and depth of the comments you regularly receive here on Ghostwritermummy, then you should be pretty happy 🙂
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 18, 2012 / 8:18 am

      I know, the amount of votes is phenomenal, isn’t it? I think the awards are a popularity contest in some ways, but those blogs are popular because they work so hard at them if you see what I mean? All awards are going to be a popularity contest to some extent I think. And thank you for your lovely comment, it makes it all worthwhile!

      • Beadzoid
        May 18, 2012 / 4:47 pm

        My pleasure!

        And yeah, you’re probably right – no doubt it is to some extent. Have to say though that I’m seeing some blogs I’m unfamiliar with. Either that means that it’s not always a foregone conclusion with the same suspects every year – or I just don’t ‘work’ hard enough to know about all the top bloggers. If it’s the latter, I’m cool with that 😀 xx
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  10. May 18, 2012 / 9:34 pm

    To cheer you up – I hope -far as I know I was not even nominated!! I was nominated last year but had only been blogging 6 months – had absolutely no idea what it was all about or what I was supposed to do – and was abroad for a few weeks so didn’t even know I was on a list somewhere. Eventually it seemed I was no longer nominated or not a finalist- at least it was never mentioned again. But I’m still grateful to whoever nominated me in the writer category as I knew no-one in the blogging world. Still don’t know who it was but if you are reading this – thank you . I was thrilled at the time even though it came to nothing! x

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