Babywearing and birth trauma

babywearing my son

As I write this, I have a warm, sleeping baby pressed to my chest. Her head is rested gently to the side and her eyes are flickering as she lets herself fall into a slumbering dream land. I could stay like this forever, with my baby against me and the rhythm of her breathing pressing into my heart. I could listen to her noises forever. I could hold this weight forever.

My son’s entrance into this word is the very reason why this blog exists and also the reason why babywearing is so very important to me. I hadn’t done it with his older sister. Oh, we had plenty of skin to skin contact and she was exclusively breastfed for seven months… but she missed out on this one. I had never considered babywearing until my sister in law told me she wanted to buy me a sling for the new baby. Her own children had been born early, her youngest at 30 weeks and she researched the importance of babywearing and Kangaroo care. Her generosity perhaps helped to save my son and I.

After his birth, I was plunged into a pit of despair. Until you’re having trouble accepting that the screeching baby they’re handing to you is actually yours, I’m not sure I will ever be able to describe that feeling to you. And he kept on screaming, distraught at life and frustrated with pain. When he was three days old, I picked up the sling.

I didn’t really know what to do with it, so I put it back again and carried on without it. A week passed. Christmas Eve rolled around and I reached a bit of a breaking point. My health visitor came to see me and I broke down in tears at the mere mention of his birth. oh my goodness, I was not ok. I was a mess. I was carrying a solid ball of steel in my stomach and I was not coping with this bundle of anger in my arms. Again, I picked up the sling.

babywearing my daughter

My son was twelve days old on Christmas day and we spent much of that day babywearing. The transformation was not instant, but he did sleep. Being in the sling helped to keep him upright and more comfortable. Being the in the sling helped to keep him near me (and although I resented this at first, I now realise how important that was). Being in the sling allowed me to look at him. I mean, really look at him.

My son.

He stayed in the sling until he was nearly 18 months. On my chest at first, and then on my hip. We went everywhere together as we learned how to be together. And yes, I think that babywearing helped to save my son and I.

There are many reports on the benefits of babywearing and the internet is full of stories, statistics, facts and persuasions. It may not be right for everyone, but I know it is right for me. My son and I bonded, just as my daughter and I are now bonding.


7 Comments on Babywearing and birth trauma

  1. Suzie @maydossu
    May 18, 2012 at 9:22 am (4 years ago)

    Babywearing is such a beautiful gift for mother and baby, I feel so lucky to have known about it and experienced it, to still experience it. This post resonates and I’m happy you found the love in the sling too.

  2. farfromhomemama
    May 20, 2012 at 5:18 pm (4 years ago)

    I never did this with my son but am determined to do so if we have a second. I think I was in shock with so much to learn after the birth but now I’ve had time to reflect, I definitely want to do it next time round.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 21, 2012 at 12:31 pm (4 years ago)

      I can definitely recommend it, there are so many benefits

  3. Katie- @mummydaddyme
    May 20, 2012 at 8:33 pm (4 years ago)

    I must admit that I didn’t do babywearing but I wish I had tried it- I hope that when we hopefully have another one, I will be able to try it. It looks magical.x

    • ghostwritermummy
      May 21, 2012 at 12:28 pm (4 years ago)

      At least give it a try. I have loved babywearing my little ones and can highly recommend it. There are SO many benefits too, aside from convenience :)

  4. Gail Payne
    November 3, 2012 at 10:24 am (4 years ago)

    This brought tears to my eyes and made my heart swell. I’m a midwife and I had my first 7 months ago. I had a joyful birth and carried him in a sling everywhere. Sadly I meet too many women like yourself who have not had a joyful birth and as a midwife I try to help them to pick up the pieces – usually when it comes to them having their 2nd child. Since experiencing babywearing for myself, the benefits are profound in terms of the bonding so when I return to work next year I will be encouraging women to do the same and give them links to your blog. Thank you for sharing your story xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      November 6, 2012 at 8:18 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks so much for your comment. Its been almost 3 years since my son was born and as the nights draw in the memories come flooding back. Now that his younger sister is here, the memories are starting to feel a little less painful and I will always be glad for the things I did to help us bond. Babywearing will always be special to me.xx


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