Brit Mums Live 2013: a journey of friendship

Three days after Matilda Mae was found sleeping, my health visitor came to the house to see us. I greeted her with tears staining my cheeks, my baby clutched tightly in my arms and may heart lying in pieces by my feet. She listened as I tried to explain what had happened but she didn’t really understand why I was so upset when I told her I had never actually met Jennie, or her precious daughter. But she did offer me some advice. She told me to get in touch, to reach out and to let it be known that I was there for her. She insisted that there was nothing I could say that would make the situation any worse.

On the 7th March Heather and I stood in a tiny church that was filled with pink and purple. We stood, by a tiny woollen coffin, and we read a tribute to Matilda. Words spilled from another grieving heart, another lost mother. Tears. Promises. Friendship.

On the 11th May Heather and I met with more new friends to walk a mile in memory of Matilda Mae. We walked through the rain as pink and purple balloons swayed in the wind and bubbles travelled into the clouds.

And what does this have to do with Brit Mums Live 2013?

On 21st June I met Jennie in London and we walked into Brit Mums Live together. We laughed, we cried and we talked. More new friends. More powerful words. More memories. And that journey of friendship grew more foundations.

Like a mirror of Tilda’s goodbye, Heather and I stood and once more read Merry’s beautiful words. We paid tribute to Freddie and to Matilda Mae and we spoke of this amazing community of ours. How I made myself leave my seat and walk up to that stage I will never, ever know.  But I did. We did. And here is the photo (courtesty of the lovely My Two Mums) to prove it.

Speaking for Tilda at Brit Mums Live 2013

 

People who know me know that I am not a public speaker. I am not ok with standing on stages, in front of microphones and in front of hundreds of people. People who met me that day know that I could not talk to them without crying. But this is my journey. It is taking me to places I never knew I could go to, but most importantly it is bringing friends along with me.

I am so proud and so honoured to call these ladies friends. They know who they are. They know how special they are. And they know they are on this journey with me forever.

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  1. June 24, 2013 / 3:28 pm

    So gutted I didn’t get to speak to you. This is a beautiful post and you did brilliant up there 🙂
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      June 25, 2013 / 2:01 pm

      Oh thank you! Hopefully we will meet next time!
      xx

  2. June 24, 2013 / 3:32 pm

    This is just beautiful Susanne. The friendship and strength you have shown Jennie during the worst time of her life is amazing. You are achieving so much through your fundraising and your selfless support. This is only the beginning of your journey and you should already be very proud. It was so lovely to meet you and I know I will do so again xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      June 25, 2013 / 2:01 pm

      It was so lovely to meet you too. See you at the barn dance!
      xxx

  3. Lisa @ hollybobbs
    June 24, 2013 / 3:45 pm

    I am so proud to call you a friend and truly admire all you have xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 2:00 pm

      Thanks lovely. Ditto.
      xxxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 2:00 pm

      Thank you xxx

  4. June 24, 2013 / 3:52 pm

    There is so much I want to say to you x I am so lucky to have you in my life and even when you are 100s of miles away I know you are right by my side.
    jennie recently posted..Not Just The Lady Whose Baby DiedMy Profile

    • ghostwritermummy
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      June 25, 2013 / 2:00 pm

      I always will be! Promise
      xxxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:59 pm

      Sorry!!!
      xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:59 pm

      Thanks Keira. Lots of love back to you!
      xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:59 pm

      Thank you
      xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:59 pm

      Thanks Pippa
      xxxx

  5. June 24, 2013 / 5:25 pm

    A truly beautiful post. You are a truly amazing beautiful person and I am proud to be your friend
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    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:58 pm

      Snap. Thanks so much for being there for me
      xxx

  6. June 24, 2013 / 5:28 pm

    Very brave Susanne. You are lucky to have each other. I know how much you both mean to each other too. Sorry I wasn’t there.

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:58 pm

      Hopefully we will get to meet soon???
      xxx

  7. June 24, 2013 / 5:35 pm

    Beautiful post. You are a very special lady and one I truly admire xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:58 pm

      Oh how kind. Thank you so much
      xxxx

  8. June 24, 2013 / 8:20 pm

    I stood on the opposite side of the room just wanting to sweep you all up in my arms and give you both the biggest hug and then to do the same for Jennie.

    I cannot begin to imagine how hard it was for you to stand there.

    What incredible friends you are to Matilda’s family.

    It’s an honour to be able to say I know you

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:57 pm

      Oh I wish you had!! I was an absolute mess all day but so so proud of myself for doing it. Thank you for such a lovely comment!
      xxx

  9. June 24, 2013 / 8:20 pm

    Gorgeous post. Gorgeous. I so loved seeing you again this weekend. I was so reassured because I knew you’d be looking after Jennie throughout the weekend. You were amazing, as always.

    Thank you for coming up on stage with me and holding my hand. That was probably the most terrifying experience of my life.

    Can’t wait to see you again already xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      June 25, 2013 / 1:56 pm

      You know that I was just as terrified. But we did it!
      xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:56 pm

      Yes it is a shame we didn’t get to chat, hopefully next time
      xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:55 pm

      Thank you. So sorry we didn’t get to chat but I loved your session
      xxxx

  10. June 24, 2013 / 11:24 pm

    So pleased to have finally met you!

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 1:55 pm

      Me too! A definite highlight!
      xxx

  11. Chelle McCann
    June 25, 2013 / 4:49 pm

    So lovely to finally meet you. You have been such a support to others and was a honour to have a big hug! x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 25, 2013 / 7:54 pm

      Yes lovely to meet you too. Til the next time!
      xxx

  12. June 25, 2013 / 8:28 pm

    I’m so disappointed I didn’t get to meet you but I watched you read. You did an outstanding job and Jennie must’ve been so proud.
    How blessed anyone is that knows you xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 27, 2013 / 11:44 am

      Oh what a lovely comment. Thank you so much xxx

  13. Helloitsgemma
    June 26, 2013 / 7:28 pm

    You were both amazing. You made everyone proud. Thank you x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 27, 2013 / 11:44 am

      Thank YOU for sorting everything.
      xxxxxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 27, 2013 / 11:44 am

      Oh thank you. I was incredibly nervous but it was a great honour, in more ways than one. And so lovely to meet you too xxx

  14. June 28, 2013 / 9:27 am

    It’s amazing what the power of friendship can help us achieve, isn’t it? Well done for getting up and reading what was such an emotional tribute. x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 28, 2013 / 10:47 am

      Thank you xxx

  15. June 28, 2013 / 2:00 pm

    This is a beautiful post & made me cry (which scared me as I’ve just started wearing contacts!!!!) It just goes to show how online friendships can be just as strong and beautiful and “real life” friendships. X

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 28, 2013 / 5:02 pm

      That sums it up perfectly 🙂
      xx

  16. Katie @mummydaddyme
    June 28, 2013 / 8:48 pm

    I think that you and Heather did an amazing job and I would loved to have met you. You are an incredible friend and I admire you so much. I just wanted you to know that. Xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 29, 2013 / 1:38 pm

      Oh thank you so much, what a lovely thing to say. I can’t believe we never met, Lisa is always telling me how awesome you are!
      xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      July 1, 2013 / 8:44 pm

      Ah thank you so much. It was absolutely terrifying but such an honour
      xx

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