365: 25.07.13 New body

Today I went shopping. Nowhere glamorous and with no real money in my purse. I only wanted one thing and yet I knew that one thing would not come easily. It never does. And as I stood before the mirror, wondering whether what I was trying on actually looked any good or not, my children (my daughters) happily chatted behind me. I took this photo. Not something I usually do, but I honestly was not sure about what I was wearing.

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My waist is too high and my hips are too wide. My arms sometimes look like twigs and stomach doesn’t lie flat like it used to.

I don’t have a new body. I have this one. It’s almost 36 years old and it hasn’t always been loved. In fact, it’s been loathed at times. It’s been the wrong shape. It’s been useless. It’s failed me. It’s let me down. But it’s mine.

And although it’s done all those things, I guess it has done a whole lot more too.

It’s carried three children.

It should have carried more.

It’s laboured three times.

And fell at the last hurdle.

It’s fed three babies.

It’s leapt from a plane!

It’s not a new body, and I can’t say honestly that I still wouldn’t trade it for a better, more swishy model. But these last couple of days have made me think.

I don’t have the perfect body. I hate my hips and I really hate my feet. I always hide my stomach and I rarely get my legs out. But at least I don’t have the world’s media telling me about all of the things that are wrong with me. And yes, I know I didn’t sign up for any of that and so those who did should have known that it would happen. But even if I had married into the world’s most famous family and agreed to birth the world’s most famous baby- even then, I would still deserve a little time. Not a new body, just some time.

When you have a baby, SO much is unsure. Your body doesn’t work in quite the same way as it did before. There are noticeable changes that take place because you grew another person inside of you. And isn’t that what we should be thinking about? Coming home from the hospital should be momentous because you have your baby and you are looking forward to welcoming that baby into your home, into your life. It should not mark the start of a weight loss regime to get a new body.

Who wants a new body? I’ve got one and sometimes I think it’s ok.

I’m linking this post up to The Boy and Me’s 365 linky
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35 Comments

35 Comments on 365: 25.07.13 New body

  1. PobbingAlong
    July 25, 2013 at 8:58 pm (3 years ago)

    Very good view on it. So much pressure post baby. X ps I’ll have the twig arms please (swapped for horse rider arms)
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 26, 2013 at 9:04 pm (3 years ago)

      Haha I will trade you the twig arms for your gorgeous hair please!
      xxxx

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  2. Fiona Napthine
    July 25, 2013 at 9:50 pm (3 years ago)

    Here, here! We have to make the most of what we have and boycott articles and magazines talking about her weight loss regime! So sad!

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 26, 2013 at 9:00 pm (3 years ago)

      I saw the offending magazine today and it really is awful! I was so pleased that Kate did not shy away from her baby belly after giving birth and I hope she realises that lots and lots of women are going to be looking to her. I really hope she does not lose the weight too quickly xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 26, 2013 at 8:59 pm (3 years ago)

      Bless you! Thank you so much :)
      xx

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      • TheBoyandMe
        July 27, 2013 at 11:45 pm (3 years ago)

        I really do think that you look fabulous, I think that you have some rather fabulous curves in that outfit, which is a good thing! And what’s better is that Eva and Bella are seeing a mummy who is comfortable with herself.

        Thanks for linking up to Project 365 linky.
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        • ghostwritermummy
          July 29, 2013 at 9:38 pm (3 years ago)

          Thank you. I took the photo because its not an outfit I would normally wear, at least not in that way anyway. But I think I am reaching the point where I am realising I am what I am so that’s that.
          xx

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  3. JallieDaddy
    July 26, 2013 at 8:29 am (3 years ago)

    If I may be so bold: I think you look fab.

    Like many blokes I don’t get why so many women seem so hard on themselves about their appearance when it seems to us that they really don;’ need to be! :)
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 26, 2013 at 8:57 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you! I think after having children, your body no longer really feels like your own. And when it doesn’t look the same, and your clothes feel different, its hard to accept that you aren’t the same person you were before. If that makes sense!
      x

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 26, 2013 at 8:55 pm (3 years ago)

      With this post? I would be honoured to. I think that for me there are years worth of feeling inferior to break through before I feel good about myself, but I am a lot better than I used to be
      xx

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  4. LauraCYMFT
    July 27, 2013 at 9:28 pm (3 years ago)

    I think all mums feel like this at some point but we can hide it away unlike those mums in the media. Must be tough for them and no wonder you see some of them losing lots of weight within months of giving birth. I think you look great!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:40 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes I think the pressure women in the spotlight must feel is just awful. I’m so glad nobody cares what I look like!
      xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:39 pm (3 years ago)

      You’re too kind
      xxx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:39 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh bless you! Thank you
      xx

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  5. michaela britton
    July 28, 2013 at 12:29 pm (3 years ago)

    You look beautiful. I try not to read magazines that focus on women’s sizes, she’s too fat, she’s too thin type of thing. They are nasty
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:37 pm (3 years ago)

      Same here. Awful magazines!
      xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:37 pm (3 years ago)

      Hah thank you!
      x

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  6. Mummy of Two
    July 28, 2013 at 2:27 pm (3 years ago)

    We all put too much pressure on ourselves when we should just make the best of what we have. I think you look amazing, definitely not like you have had 3 children!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:36 pm (3 years ago)

      There is so much pressure on women and even more so after having children. I agree, we should make the most of what we have
      xx

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  7. Nikki Thomas
    July 28, 2013 at 7:57 pm (3 years ago)

    I think you look just fine. I think the grass is always greener with women and their bodies, I hate mine and mostly due to the scars left from carrying and having children but as you say it is mine and it works so that will do for me
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:35 pm (3 years ago)

      Its such a shame we are brought up to believe unrealistic bodies are what we should be striving for. It doesn’t make you any happier
      xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:34 pm (3 years ago)

      Bless you. Thank you!
      x

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  8. Coombemill - Fiona
    July 29, 2013 at 8:01 pm (3 years ago)

    We are our own worse enemies and are quick to point out what we deem as our faults! That isn’t what other people see, and isn’t it more important what’s on the inside? For the record I think the outfit suits you and you look great.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      July 29, 2013 at 9:33 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh yes, that is so true. I am always quick to knock back compliments.
      x

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  9. Mrs Teepot
    August 5, 2013 at 2:00 pm (3 years ago)

    Great post. I think we’re lucky not to have the media picking us apart, we do that far too much ourselves!
    You look gorgeous by the way.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 9, 2013 at 7:31 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you!
      xx

      Reply

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