Return of The Bump: 13 weeks pregnant and the dating scan

return of the bump 13 weeks~ we have had the 12 week/ dating scan! At what was originally 13 weeks and 2 days, then skipped swiftly to 13 weeks and 5 days gestation- moving my due date forwards to the 9th November.

One baby.

One good, strong heart beat.

Nuchal measurements looking good so far.

Bloods taken with no issues.

Results to be sent in 7-10 days if, indeed, there are results to send. If all is well, I shall not hear my results at all.

And the poppy seed, there on the screen. Arms above the head, almost waving. The heart hammering in the chest and the legs flailing. A real baby.

return of the bump 13 weeks~

And then the chat with the consultant. The moment I have been waiting for but dreading at the same time. Not wanting to hear her say that I must have another c-section (even though I may want a c-section!) and not wanting to feel I have no choice in things at all.

The conversation took place with all three of us, bizarrely, standing up. Having been left waiting for a good hour and a half, and then another few minutes in the consulting room after a brusque “I’ll be back in a minute”, we weren’t expecting great things. It felt different to the booking in appointment. We’d seen areas of this hospital that were not as new as the building we know we’ll be having the baby in. Parts that were as old, and as dingy as the hospital where The Preschooler was born. It was starting to feel a little familiar.

And then our consultant breezed back in and introduced herself with a smile and the three of us stood and spoke about this pregnancy. Almost immediately our conversation turned to the birth. Having had three sections, the last one being an elective, it was- quite rightly, I suppose- assumed that baby number four would be an elective too.

“Do I have to have another section?” I asked.


No, I do not.

There are risks involved if I go for a trial of labour. The biggest risk is rupture to my scar (tell me something I don’t know!) and the reality of the figures placed before me is that there is a 40% chance that I will end up with an emergency section.


But I am to be supported, whatever my decision.

I am to know that if I do labour, I will be continuously monitored. I will not be left alone at all. I will be in hospital, surrounded by beeps and machines that will monitor my baby and I and I will be constantly checked to make sure that my scar is intact.


There is a monitor that will allow me to use the birthing pool! There is a monitor that will enable me to move around the room, to stand and to walk!

We shall know more after the anomaly scan around 20 weeks gestation, as then we will know where the placenta is. In a woman who has had repeat c-sections, there is a greater chance that the placenta is positioned lower down, which makes a vaginal delivery impossible. If my placenta is in the correct position, I shall be given a green light to go ahead with a trial of labour, should I want to. A c-section can be booked for one week after my due date, should I want it to. I will not be induced. I will be able to try, if I decide that I want to.

Until then, it has been decided that my previous babies have all been too small for what they would have liked. The Big One was 6lb 15 at 42+1 weeks, The Preschooler 7lb 7 at 41+2 weeks and The Toddler 5lb 15 at 38+6 weeks. ‘Too small’. Growth scans have been booked from 28 weeks gestation, although I am not sure they are needed. My babies have all been small; I do not see the problem with that. But I don’t want anything to jeopardise potential plans for the birth, so we shall attend the first growth scan and make a decision about the others based on those results.

This week, the poppy seed is the size of a peach. A peach! The head is now half the size of the crown to rump length; tiny bones are forming in the arms and legs. Intestines are starting to move from the umbilical cord to the abdomen and vocal cords are forming. Ready for first words and babbles.

Hands and arms can move; thumbs can be sucked and waves- as we saw at the scan- can be performed.

And that heart? I saw it beat. I saw it, right there in the chest. Beating. Life.

And me? I’m feeling a little better than I have done previously. The sickness and nausea is still ever present but its becoming more manageable with lots of early nights and fresh fruit and veg. And yes, I am still a little rounded.

return of the bump 13 weeks~

*I’ve been blogging about this pregnancy since I was 6 weeks. You can read all my updates week by week here.
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  1. May 14, 2014 / 6:40 am

    “But I am to be supported, whatever my decision.”
    Yes! *punches the air* I’m so glad that you’re getting the support that you need – and fab that they have a monitor for the birth pool! Fantastic news that you may be able to go for the vbac that you want. And that bump is looking rather lovely 🙂 xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 14, 2014 / 5:11 pm

      I so hope I get to use those monitors!!
      x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      May 14, 2014 / 5:11 pm

      Yes, so far so good!
      x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      May 14, 2014 / 5:10 pm

      I am feeling more positive this time around, and hoping that the 20 week scan has good news for us. Thank you for your lovely comments
      x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      May 14, 2014 / 5:09 pm

      Thanks lovely x x

  2. Lisa H
    May 14, 2014 / 10:41 pm

    Look at that gorgeous bump! Xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      May 15, 2014 / 3:16 pm

      Haha at the moment it goes up and down depending on the time of day and what I’ve eaten!
      x x

  3. May 15, 2014 / 2:38 pm

    Congratulations! Wow that is great to hear that you will be supported if you choose to try for a natural labour. I was told that if I went for a ‘trial of scar’ as they called it I would need to be strapped to a bed and continually monitored. I will definitely ask about monitors that can go in birthing pools as that could sway my opinion about my birth! I look forward to following your updates!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 15, 2014 / 3:15 pm

      Thank you! I have to wait and see what my 20 week scan says as the position of my placenta is the deciding factor apparently. But yes, hopefully, I will be able to have a trial of labour

  4. May 15, 2014 / 8:00 pm

    The first scan is always SUCH a milestone. And I’m so pleased to hear you do have choices regarding the birth. Interesting to hear about the “too small” babies too. F was only 6lbs 14oz and was born at 41+5. Everyone thought she was a bit early when looking at her charts but she was just long and skinny – just like her dad!
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 16, 2014 / 6:21 am

      I will know more at the 20 weeks scan when they know where the placenta is but so far its looking good! All of my babies have seemed too small to the professionals, even in labour with Luka they said he was 5 weeks behind but turned out to be 7lb7. It is my girls they think are too small although they have been the healthy ones!! Looking forward to catching up with your journey now

      x x x

  5. May 15, 2014 / 10:47 pm

    Congrats! How nice to be scanned and further along, mine was the opposite, they moved be back a whole week 😛 If you decide to go for a natural birth, good luck and I hope it goes well 🙂 Lovely baby bump too 🙂

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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 16, 2014 / 6:16 am

      Ah thank you! It was a surprise for sure and I am not sure its entirely correct but I’ll take it! Looking forward to reading your journey 🙂
      x x

  6. May 16, 2014 / 2:37 pm

    Wow your consultant is so supportive! She sounds amazing! We saw ours this week and he was nice and again supportive and made it clear I could change my mind anytime from Vbac to C-section with no fuss, phew! But I was told categorically I can’t have a water birth if I do go for a Vbac because of the need to be monitored. Different equipment at different hospitals I suppose. Glad all is going well though, be great to see how you are getting on with our due dates being so close!! xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 16, 2014 / 9:15 pm

      I was pleasantly surprised on speaking to the consultant! Everyone else was sure it would be another section so its nice to know I have an option

  7. May 20, 2014 / 8:17 am

    So glad that you are getting the support that you need and deserve, someone willing to listen and talk through your options and give honest advice can make such a difference x And beautiful waving baby x So pleased for you and the 9th! Baby Tilda is watching over you too x So glad that we get this journey together again x x x x Love to you x
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 20, 2014 / 12:57 pm

      I really hope that is true, she is watching over us both. It does seem that the dates are falling in line a little. And yes, it is lovely to have a supportive consultant. Lots of love to you too
      x xx

  8. May 20, 2014 / 9:52 am

    Congrats again, such lovely news. The important thing here is you having choice and being listened to and you seem to be getting that. I mentioned to you my current placenta issues but after two ‘natural’ births (really hate that expression, more so now I’m facing a possible c-section), I’m hoping it won’t come to that. Unfortunately, I didn’t get quite the level of information at my appointment last week and since coming away have found out much more to contradict what they have told me. Will hold tight for another 3 weeks and keep fingers crossed. x
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    • ghostwritermummy
      May 20, 2014 / 12:56 pm

      Oh I hope you get some answers soon! Really hope you manage not to worry too much, my elective really was a positive experience
      xx x

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