Return of The Bump: 28 weeks pregnant

Today I am 28 weeks pregnant. And 6 days. And I will not lie; this week has been hard. Whether it has been exhaustion following our holiday, or just pregnancy related crapness, I don’t know. But I’ve wanted to spend much of this week hiding under my duvet, sleeping. And I haven’t been able to. The children have also been tired, The Toddler has regressed on her potty training (fairly extremely) and the other two are just generally suffering from having a mum unable to even think what to do with them, let alone do it.

I’ve totally failed at the summer holidays this year.

That aside, guilt stuffed down the back of the sofa for another moment or two, the poppyseed is hanging in there. This week the baby is the size of a large aubergine, and is starting to settle into position for birth. Currently back to back, so send ‘move over baby’ vibes this way please! The poppyseed is also supposed to be around 2.5lb in weight and building new skills such as coughing, sucking, hiccuping and blinking. Clever baby! The poppyseed is also sleeping with real REM phases, which apparently means he/she could be dreaming too. Not sure what those dreams could be about, but it’s wonderful to think it could be happening. If only we could remember those days!

This week I saw my community midwife, who measured bump and confirmed yet again that baby is ‘small for dates’. By almost 4 weeks this time. My blood pressure is also high! I have to admit to feeling more than a little gutted about this. Firstly, I have a personalised growth chart, which means that the lines on my chart are to indicate where baby should be, within parameters that are normal for me, not normal for the average woman. This has been based on the weights of previous babies, and in theory this baby should follow one of the lines on this chart. But it doesn’t. It has fallen way off the scale this week. Therefore it is too small, for me. I feel like I am already failing, again. The midwife told me that there isn’t much I can do (I have a growth scan next week), apart from to monitor movements closely and to call triage immediately if I notice any change from the norm. Now I do not know what the norm is.

And the blood pressure? That has me worried. I always have low blood pressure. It has never been high. I eat well, I exercise daily and I don’t drink or smoke. I should not have high blood pressure! I am putting this reading down to a blip- as the midwife (a stand in for my normal midwife) was taking my BP, I was telling her my reasons for choosing a different hospital for this baby, and what had happened with The Preschooler. I know talking about that will raise my blood pressure, as I still find it so upsetting to talk about. That said, after discovering that high blood pressure can mean less blood to the placenta, and therefore restricted growth for baby, I am taking steps to ensure that I don’t get another high reading if I can help it. Here is where I must say a special thanks to my lovely friend, Chelle.

And thanks also this week to my dear friend Minty and to my husband who have both mopped up my tears this week. It’s been emotional. But I am still here. And so is the bump!

return of the bump_ 28 weeks~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

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25 Comments on Return of The Bump: 28 weeks pregnant

  1. Mothergeek
    August 23, 2014 at 9:08 am (1 year ago)

    Sending huge hugs your way lovely! My friend had her 4th baby on Thursday – her 4th section. Both mummy and baby are fine – I’m sure you & poppyseed will be fine too xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 23, 2014 at 5:42 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks Tina, I’m sure we will be too x x x

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  2. Ami
    August 23, 2014 at 9:09 am (1 year ago)

    Sorry to hear you have had a tough week. I’ve everything crossed for you for a more positive outcome at your growth scan next week. Thinking of you. x

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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 23, 2014 at 5:42 pm (1 year ago)

      Ah thanks lovely x x

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  3. Leigh - Headspace Perspective
    August 23, 2014 at 6:04 pm (1 year ago)

    Hugs, my lovely. You’re not failing, you’re doing a grand job of growing that new little life. Keep doing whatever you’re doing to try to lower your bp for the next reading, and get as much rest as you can with the other little ones you have. Thinking of you and everything is crossed for your next check up. xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 11:28 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks lovely. I am trying so hard to stay positive and remember that I was designed fort his!! I am hoping this is a blip and all will be well next week x x

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  4. Rachel @ Parenthood Highs and Lows
    August 23, 2014 at 6:06 pm (1 year ago)

    oh hun, how rubbish! I suffered with high bp with my eldest, ended up induced at 37+2 because of it. He was small for his dates (6lb) – which they believe was down to my bp, but he was absolutely fine. They will just monitor you a little more closely if there is anything they’re concerned about. Like you said, the bp might have been just a blip because of what you were talking about, and the midwives measurements might not be right – especially if it is a different one to your usual one. A doctor at the hospital told me with Alex (apparently measured HUGE by a different midwife – he was a normal 8lb 3oz) that different midwives measure slightly differently so it is so inaccurate.
    Hope all goes well at the growth scan, fingers crossed that baby turns the right way round (I had back to back with eldest, didn’t know until he was born!) but plenty of time for him or her to get a shift on! x
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 11:27 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks lovely. I do have a history of small babies so that is normal for me, the high bp really had me concerned though. I think mainly I know that they won’t induce me as its too risky, so they will just go for the section. That is what I really don’t want to happen, so I am going to do all I can to stay healthy x x

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  5. Hannah Budding Smiles
    August 23, 2014 at 6:17 pm (1 year ago)

    Sending massive virtual hugs to you Susanne and lots of move and grow vibes to poppyseed. I know it’s hard not to feel guilty, but you’re doing the right thing trying to get that BP down. I hope your growth scan goes well next week, thinking of you xx

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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 11:26 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks lovely. I am trying my very best to rest as much as I can and I have a feeling that the BP will start to go down once the kids are back at school! x

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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 11:25 am (1 year ago)

      I’m hoping that is the case x x

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  6. Danielle Askins
    August 24, 2014 at 10:02 am (1 year ago)

    Bless you, sounds like a bit of an emotional week! If it’s any consolation I feel I failed at the summer holiday this year too-the wedding just took over, and we’ve had little money the last 2 weeks to do anything too!
    Hope the growth scan goes ok, hopefully baby has just had a lazy week and will pile on the pounds (well ounces!) over the next few xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 11:24 am (1 year ago)

      The holidays are so hard when there are other commitments aren’t they? Usually I am teaching so I get the 6 weeks off but this year I have tried to keep up with work and the kids and it just hasn’t worked! Thank you for your well wishes, I am sure the scan will show all is fine x x

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  7. LauraCYMFT
    August 24, 2014 at 12:02 pm (1 year ago)

    I remember how exhausted I felt running after my son when I was pregnant with my daughter and there was only 1 of him so I can only imagine how tiring it must get being pregnant and having another 3 to look after. Don’t feel too bad, I’m sure the kids will just want their Mummy to be feeling better and having a cuddle in bed with some book is just as fun as anything else. Hope you are feeling better soon.
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 24, 2014 at 8:22 pm (1 year ago)

      Ah thank you, that means a lot. So hard not to feel the guilt, isn’t it? x x x

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  8. Molly
    August 26, 2014 at 6:53 pm (1 year ago)

    Ah I’m SO sorry you’ve had such a rubbish week. It sounds like you’re up against it and maybe the mixture of the school holidays and feeling tense had something to do with the BP reading? Please don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re a brilliant mum and the “f word” (failure) shouldn’t even enter your mind let alone make it onto this blog. You are NOT a failure. You’ve just returned from taking your kids on a wonderful holiday – and that’s what they’ll remember once they’re back at school, not the days where you’ve been tired and haven’t managed to take them out or think up genius ways to entertain them. Hope next week is a better one and you get some good news on the growth and blood pressure front. Thinking of you. xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 27, 2014 at 8:22 am (1 year ago)

      I know you’re right Molly. I think the holiday wiped us out completely. I keep forgetting that I am almost 7 months pregnant and not as young as I used to be!! I have a growth scan this week and I hope that my BP will be a little more stable by then. Thank you x x x x

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  9. Beth
    August 27, 2014 at 8:19 am (1 year ago)

    Hope all goes well at the growth scan. And stock up on Kleenex – but hopefully you won’t need as much this week xxxx
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  10. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
    August 27, 2014 at 2:43 pm (1 year ago)

    aww sorry to hear you had such a difficult week lovely :( so weird that your bump is measuring small when it definitely looks bigger than mine was and mine measured fine! Bizarre! Hope all is ok and you’ve had a better week this week! xx #sharewithme
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 27, 2014 at 5:36 pm (1 year ago)

      It’s odd isn’t it?? I have a growth scan on Friday so perhaps that will shed some light x x x

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  11. Potty Mouthed Mummy
    August 27, 2014 at 5:53 pm (1 year ago)

    Sorry you’ve had a tough one lovely. I feel bad that you are taking on these things as your fault, there is no fault here and certainly none with you. Lots of hugs xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      August 27, 2014 at 8:36 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks lovely. I’ve taken a step back this week and am feeling a lot better actually. Hoping that the growth scan is good news after all x x x x

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  12. Jenny
    September 2, 2014 at 1:28 pm (1 year ago)

    Oh bless you, you have had a tough week indeed. I can’t imagine taking care of three others while prego I thought it was hard running after my one year old son and being pregnant. You are amazing. Pat yourself on your back because it sounds like you are doing amazing. Don’t worry about summer holidays they will have another next year and won’t remember anyways promise. Take it easy hun no pressures on yourself. Not long to go now. How exciting. Love the bump photo! Great top for your bump! Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round! #sharewithme
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    • ghostwritermummy
      September 2, 2014 at 8:20 pm (1 year ago)

      Ah thanks lovely x x

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