Return of The Bump: 29 weeks pregnant

Today I am 29 weeks and six days pregnant. Tomorrow I shall be the big 3-0 weeks and feeling rather overwhelmed with it all. Yesterday morning I didn’t want to be 30 weeks pregnant. I wanted time to slow down a little, to take a little longer in this pregnancy. I wanted to relish the remaining 10-12 weeks I was utterly sure I had left. And today?

Today I am learning never to take anything for granted. Never to assume that everything will be how I plan it in my head. The pregnancy, the VBAC, the whole thing. Nothing I do now will really have much effect on the outcome; all I can do now is stay as healthy as possible and hope that everything is ok.

Yesterday we had our growth scan and consultant appointment and were told that the poppyseed is, indeed, small. The tape measure got it right after all. Baby is around 2lb in weight, but apparently the size is not of immediate concern right now. I am to go back in two weeks to be re-scanned as the doctors would like to check the function of my placenta, and measure the fluid around the baby. They are concerned that all is not as it should be, and this is the reason why baby is not following a curve on the growth chart. As my previous scan was 10 weeks ago, they have no way of knowing if baby is growing ok or not. They suspect not, but have admitted that this one could just be small and that could be normal for me. That’s the best case scenario, and the one we want.

But we have to prepare for the worse case scenario too, which was laid out in fromt of us straight away.

Worst case?

Doctors aim to get me to 34 weeks gestation before baby is delivered, by c section “of course”.

Doctors may let me get to 36 weeks before delivering.

A VBAC is highly unlikely, given the evidence that shows small, premature babies are not good candidates for labour and birth. And, I suspect, ladies with three previous sections under their belts are not the greatest of candidates either.

Baby is also breech, but has time to turn and although I know this is true, this fact too feels like another nail in the VBAC coffin.

Baby will be small at 34 weeks. Very small. And so will need special care.

Knowing that there may only be 4 weeks of this pregnancy left is strange. Yesterday I assumed I had at least 12 weeks to go! My first two babies were both late (42+1 and 41+4) and I assumed this one would be too. The world of premature babies, special care and all that goes with it is alien to me. And I hope it stays that way. I hope that the doctors are being over cautious and preparing me for the worst, just in case.

And so I will prepare for the worst. Anything else that happens will be a welcome surprise. I will ask to see the special care baby unit at the hospital. I will formulate a premature baby birth and care plan. I will prepare the children for a sibling that might not come home as quickly as the other ones did. And I will make my peace with it all, one day. For now I have lots to do. And for the sake of tradition:

This week the poppyseed is the size of a small cabbage! Weighing in at three pounds and measuring almost 17 inches, baby can now get ready to lay down some fat. Some babies will double their weight from this point; some will triple their weight. It’s all about growing at this point. Come on poppyseed, grow, grow, grow.

Return of The Bump_ 29 weeks~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

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51 Comments

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:33 pm

      THanks Kelly x x x

  1. BakedPotato Mummy
    August 30, 2014 / 7:30 pm

    Come on poppyseed. You can do it! Grow grow grow!

    Sending big hugs your way lovely lady. Keeping everything crossed that things are looking more positive on 2 weeks time xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      September 11, 2014 / 1:09 pm

      Thanks lovely x x

  2. Gaynor
    August 30, 2014 / 7:42 pm

    Fingers crossed for safe and healthy outcome x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:32 pm

      Thank you so much x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:32 pm

      Thank you. Yes we are being well looked after so I guess I have to trust that they know what is best for us both x x

  3. August 30, 2014 / 7:51 pm

    My fingers are tightly crossed that you get to be 41wks+ and throroughly fed up with still being pregnant – not that I want you to bed miserable of course but you know what I mean. As you say you can’t affect anything now, stay healthy, prepare for what you hope will not happen and try to relax as much as you can x
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:32 pm

      Thank you! I am hoping so much that I get to that point too, and feel thoroughly fed up and sick of being pregnant. I am SO not ready for this to be over yet! x x x

  4. August 30, 2014 / 7:51 pm

    Big hugs, I am wishing you, your family and poppy seed the best of luck xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:31 pm

      Thank you x x

  5. August 30, 2014 / 7:55 pm

    Oh sweetie I don’t know what to say. I know you’ve had your heart set on a vbac, I hope that the precautions are just that and little poppyseed gets the hurry up to grow LOTS in the weeks to come. Curly Girl was a premie, although not neonatal, it can be scary but they’re fighters! Thinking of you and sending huge hugs x x
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:31 pm

      I think letting go of the VBAC is the hardest thing because I still think it could be a possibility for us. I will prepare for the worst but hope for the best x x x x

  6. August 30, 2014 / 7:58 pm

    You’re in my thoughts and prayers. I hope very much for the best case scenario. Try not to stress too much. You have a grey attitude about it all, and I know you will handle it – whatever happens. xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:30 pm

      Thank you. I am trying so hard to be positive and practical because I know being upset is not going to help at all. So plans are changing but I will change with them x x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:29 pm

      Thank you. Yes they really are looking after us well x x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:28 pm

      Thank you so much x x

  7. August 30, 2014 / 8:34 pm

    Sending you big hugs and growth wishes for poppyseed. I’m sorry things aren’t going straightforward for you and I have everything crossed that they can let you get to 36 weeks. Come in poppyseed, you can do this!xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:27 pm

      Thank you so much x x x

  8. August 30, 2014 / 8:34 pm

    Thinking about you lovely. I hope little baby is just that – small and perfectly formed, and can stay put until you are full term. Pregnancy can be so stressful can’t it, but I hope that you can relax, take care of yourself and stay positive. You are in my thoughts 🙂 xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:27 pm

      Yes, I hope so too. I hope small is just normal and nothing to worry about. Thank you x x x

  9. August 30, 2014 / 10:38 pm

    Babies grow so much in those last weeks and I’m sure poppyseed will do the same. You grow excellent babies and this will be no different xx hope all the stuff that’s alien to you stays that way too x
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:27 pm

      I really hope that is true. I want to get to 42 weeks and be totally fed up, waiting for baby! x x x

  10. Fiona napthine
    August 30, 2014 / 11:23 pm

    Thinking about you and hoping all will be okay with you and baby xxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:26 pm

      Thank you x x x

  11. August 30, 2014 / 11:25 pm

    Sending big hugs to you and my new baby niece or nephew. Love you both lots xxxx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:26 pm

      Ah thanks Jen. Think this baby is just keen to meet their awesome Aunty and Uncle eh? x x x x

  12. August 31, 2014 / 11:46 am

    I have everything crossed that you make it to at least term, but if not baby will be in the best place and looked after. You sound like you are already mentally prepared, or at least getting there, so that’s the biggest hurdle. Babies born at 34 weeks are generally absolutely fine – some even come home quite soon after. Fingers crossed that everything goes ok for you xxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      August 31, 2014 / 4:26 pm

      I am hoping we get there too. But, like you say, we are in good hands. Thank you x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:25 pm

      Thank you x x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 4:24 pm

      You’re right. It is good that they are being so thorough. Still trying to get my head round it all but I have to stay postive and practical right now, for everyone’s sake. I really appreciate all the advice, thank you x x x x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      September 2, 2014 / 8:23 pm

      Oh bless you. That must have been very scary. We will know more after the next scan, and then I guess we need to make some decisions. I am in organisation mode right now which suits us better than panicking actually. Thank you so much for your support x x x x

  13. Penny
    August 31, 2014 / 7:13 pm

    Hey there lovely,

    Sorry to hear all this and sending you lots of positive thoughts. I know you must be a bit disappointed for your birth choice but just concentrate on being healthy and happy right now.

    Penny x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      August 31, 2014 / 8:26 pm

      That’s exactly what I intend to do. Thank you 🙂 x x

  14. September 1, 2014 / 2:49 pm

    What a nightmare you must feel like your living. I hope to God everything is OK with the baby.
    Hopefully if they can get you to 34 weeks baby has a really good chance. Even more just hope baby is a small baby and nothing is wrong at all. Cant imagine what you guys are going through with all the worry. Not what you need when pregnant. xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      September 1, 2014 / 7:56 pm

      Strangely, I am feeling very calm about it all. I think it helps to feel organised and practical. We know we are in good hands and there is little else we can do, so sorting bedrooms and making plans is helping to keep the tears at bay. Thank you so much for your kind words. We really hope that this is all just a blip x x x

  15. September 1, 2014 / 11:15 pm

    Keeping everything crossed for you and sending hugs, hope the poppyseed piles on some weight and everything is fine in your next appointment, it sounds like they are keeping a good eye on you. xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      September 2, 2014 / 9:15 am

      Thank you, they are. And there is little else we can do but wait.x x x

  16. September 2, 2014 / 9:07 am

    Sorry to hear your news. I’m sure you’re doing everything in your power to stay positive. Sometimes I think birth plans are just made to be thrown out the window. In the end, however she enters the world, that the little one arrives safely and healthily (for you and her) is the main thing. But, my fingers are crossed for you that she’ll keep on growing and arrive later – rather than sooner. x

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      September 2, 2014 / 9:15 am

      Thank you- I am hoping for the same x x x

  17. Emma Lander
    September 2, 2014 / 8:21 pm

    What a bit pile of rubbish. It is such a worrying time. I will keep everything crossed that Poppyseed is just naturally small. Big hugs xxx

  18. MummyandMonkeys
    September 3, 2014 / 11:33 am

    hugs, Ive had a stressful week too, it really throws you when you have had previous overdue babies and are told there is the possibility of an early one. Will keep my fingers crossed your little bump has a growth spurt xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      September 3, 2014 / 4:52 pm

      I’m so sorry you’ve had a stressful week too 🙁 And yes it is a huge shock, but I guess I am lucky to have been given the chance to prepare for what may be x x x x

  19. September 4, 2014 / 8:54 am

    I just want to wrap you up and give you a big hug. I’m so sorry for my late comment this week – I’ve been stuck in a world of my own so had no idea all this was going on for you. Much love to you all. xxxx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      September 4, 2014 / 12:27 pm

      No need at all to apologise! We all have so much going on at the moment don’t we? Just keep thinking of the day we get to hold our babies at last 🙂 x x

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