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Hyperemesis Gravidarum- the definitive guide: a review

January 6, 2015      20 Comments

I was recently asked to review Caitlin Dean and Amanda Shortman’s book Hyperemsis Gravidarum- the definitive guide. I have to be honest. I don’t read many non fiction books and medical guides rarely make my reading list on a regular basis. But this was one book I really needed to read, and regular readers of my pregnancy diary will know why.

hypermemesis gravidarum- the definitive guide_ a review~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

Official word on the book from Caitlin’s blog, Spewing Mummy:

Part one covers definitions of hyperemesis gravidarum, theories into it’s causes, information on treatments and management plans. Aimed more at the healthcare professionals it covers in depth the current research and care plans yet is accessible and essential for the sufferer too.

Part two is the essential survival guide for sufferers, their partners and family and friends. Covering coping strategies for the numerous symptoms of hyperemesis gravidarum, from excessive saliva and oral hygiene to the emotional impact and people who just “don’t get it”, this section won’t cure you but it will make the nightmare nine months that little bit easier.

Part three approaches life after hyperemesis gravidarum including recovering from the trauma, mental health issues and preparing for another. Alternatives to pregnancy, such as adoption and single child family structures are gently discussed and the book is rounded up with a positive pro-active approach to coping with hyperemesis as part of your life experience.

Part four provides a range of useful information, links, contacts, tables and charts to help you survive your journey with HG.

For around seven months last year, my body was not my own. I was there, somewhere, within the shell of a body that could not cope with it’s condition. I was inside, silently screaming, retching and weeping. Seven months spent taking medication to ‘control’ wave after wave after wave of nausea. To stem the flow of vomit that escaped like a fountain from my broken body. I spent the first four months wondering whether my pregnancy was even a good idea. Whether I could continue. I was not living a life I was dragging through lonely days with a growing fear gnawing at me all day and all night.

Hyperemesis Gravidarum- the definitive guide: a review~ Ghostwritermummy.co.ukMy life was on hold. Panic crept under my skin at the thought of leaving the house. Prickled at me when I had to cancel appointments and events. Stabbed at me when I realised that people didn’t actually understand what was happening to me. I was pregnant. And sick. But I was only pregnant, not sick! Life could continue. Life couldn’t be put on hold. Right?

Wrong.

When you are suffering from more than the normal pregnancy sickness life is not normal. You cannot just go out, into rooms with other people, without knowing for sure you aren’t going to vomit onto their feet as you say hello. When you are suffering like this, you are alone. You know that those around you don’t really understand and you can’t think how you will ever get them to glimpse into the world you’ve staggered into. I am pretty sure that at least one cherished friendship has been destroyed by all of this.

Then I read this book. It was written by a friend, and it actually feels as though it has been written by a friend.

When I first got my hands on the book, I went straight for the chapter entitled Coping strategies and devoured the advice from other sufferers- many of whom definitely suffered a lot more than I did. There is also a partner’s chapter, which is essential reading for those closest to sufferers. It’s hard to see your loved one so poorly for such a long time; I imagine it is also very wearing.

Ten weeks post birth, I am reading the chapters on Life after Hypermesis.

Hyperemesis Gravidarum- the definitive guide: a review~ Ghostwritermummy.co.ukI stopped taking my medication when we returned from Sicily in August. I was 28 weeks pregnant. The last trails of nausea dwindled by around 32 weeks and did not return. And yet today the fear remains. I am terrified of becoming poorly, catching a bug or being close to my ‘unsafe’ foods. The thought of being out with people I don’t know well and in crowded places still makes me feel panicky and I am still prone to cancelling outings. But it’s ok. I am recovering from a pregnancy made difficult by severe sickness (amongst other things) and I am not alone.

Reading this book is a little like a comforting hug from a friend. Someone to touch shoulders with after a heavy day. Someone that leans in close and whispers I understand.  Someone who does not judge. Someone who will hold back your hair, wipe your brow and remind you why this is all worth it.

There are stories from real women. There are real life coping strategies to guide you through one of the scariest and most miserable times of your life. Yes, I said it. Much of my pregnancy was Hyperemesis Gravidarum- the definitive guide: a review~ Ghostwritermummy.co.ukmiserable. Sorry. There are chapters you will want your doctor to read, your partner to read, your friends to read. There are tips for re-adjusting in a world not governed by vomit. There are resources for support and advice. There is hope.

If you are suffering from Hyperemesis Gravidarum, please read this book. Please ask your partner to read it. Please take heart in the fact that you are a strong person, stronger than you realised you could be. And you WILL get through it. And soon, you will have that baby in your arms and you will make the first steps towards recovery. You can do it.

The illustration below, by Brenda Louese Wagner, was shared on a HG Facebook group and I think it perfectly sums it all up. We weep and we retch but it is all with love for that precious baby. 

Hyperemesis Gravidarum- the definitive guide@ a review~ Ghostwritermummy.co.

The book is available to buy for £9.99 from Amazon and major bookshops. ISBN 9780993062308. Please check out Caitlin’s blog, Spewing Mummy for more of her story. I received this book free of charge for review purposes only but all opinions are my own.

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  1. Jenni - Baby Chaos says

    January 6, 2015 at 9:12 am

    Great review, I really need to get that book read, I wish it had been around when I was pregnant with Boo.
    It’s great to know that there is a tool out there for ladies when the really need it most! It’s good to know there is support and understanding.
    It was horrible, and it’s shadow, sadly, doesn’t end with birth, there are many lingering effects which made life after a HG pregnancy irrevocably altered from life before.

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:45 am

      It really is horrible isn’t it. So sorry you suffered too x

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  2. Louise says

    January 6, 2015 at 10:17 am

    That sounds like a great book and a must read for anyone who is suffering from hyperemesis or trying to help give support to someone. There definitely needs to be more awareness – I see so much misreporting in the media about it just being ‘pregnancy sickness’ when it is so much more than that. Whilst I was fortunate not to endure too much nausea during my pregnancies, I can imagine that being that sick in pregnancy is incredibly debilitating and utterly miserable let alone having to deal with the lack of understanding and lack of sympathy. #TriedTested

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:44 am

      The media is awful with their reporting, I recently read an article accusing Duchess Kate of being lazy as she hasn’t been on as many engagements as the other royals! I think because the majority of women manage fine people assume all women can but that just not the case at all x x x

      Reply
  3. Kim Carberry says

    January 6, 2015 at 11:17 am

    That sounds like a really helpful book….Great review!

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Thank you. The book is wonderful x x

      Reply
  4. Caroline (BecomingaSAHM) says

    January 6, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    You poor thing hon it must have been awful, and like you say, it doesn’t just go away, its hard to change the way you think and when your life has revolved around thinking about it for so long, it is hard to try and get back to ‘normal’. Glad this book helps you, sounds like it would be great for anyone who is suffering, and their friends and family! Xx #triedtested

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:42 am

      It really is awful. I’m hoping this book gets lots of coverage for other women x x x

      Reply
  5. Jayne @ SMABL says

    January 6, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    I feel for you, I had a pretty hard time with my first born, I suffered right through my first pregnancy up until the birth. It’s not a nice place to be at. Luckily I was totally the opposite with my recent pregnancy.
    Great Review and a very comforting book for suffering expectant Moms out there.
    #TriedTested

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:40 am

      Funny how one pregnancy can be so horrendous and another not so bad isn’t it? I had awful sickness with my son and with Elsie but nothign much at all with the other two girls x x

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  6. Kate @ Family Fever says

    January 7, 2015 at 10:42 am

    What a fantastic book, and so important for raising awareness. It must be a terrifying and debilitating condition, both for the sufferer and their family. You are a very strong person! Thanks for linking up with #TriedTested

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:40 am

      It’s awful and the scars are still there even though Elsie is almost 2 months old x x

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  7. Bakedpotatomummy says

    January 7, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    I just can’t imagine how horrible it must have been. You really are an amazingly strong lady to have made it through that. How awful that you feel you’ve lost friends because of it too.
    I hope you are able to make a full recovery.
    This really is an illness that needs more publicity. More people need to understand how devestating it can be. I get so annoyed for you, every time I hear it referred to as ‘severe morning sickness’. That tag just belittles it and what you have been through. Books like this and blogs like yours are a really important part of that.
    Sending you big hugs lovely lady xx

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:39 am

      I agree, more people need to know the severity of it all. I was so lucky not to have suffered to the extent that some do x x

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  8. Colette B says

    January 7, 2015 at 9:50 pm

    It sounds like the book has really hit the nail it was aiming for and I will certainly be recommending it to any HG sufferers I know of.
    Thanks for linking up with #TriedTested and a very happy new year to you x

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:38 am

      Yes it really does hit the nail! Please do share with anyone you think might need it x x

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  9. Jenny says

    January 7, 2015 at 10:28 pm

    Oh hunny you have been through so much. You are so strong and brave for sharing it all with us your deepest emotions and all. The book sounds like it really is great. You did a fantastic job on the review and the details. Hoping it helps others now as you share it. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:37 am

      The book is wonderful- I cannot rate it highly enough x x

      Reply
  10. The Reading Residence says

    January 8, 2015 at 6:31 pm

    This sounds like such a useful and honest book. I’m so sorry that you suffered so much throughout your pregnancy, and hoping this post and book can help others in the same situation x

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    • ghostwritermummy says

      January 9, 2015 at 9:35 am

      Thank you. The book is wonderful and such a comfort to read as you know you’re not alone x x

      Reply

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