Brilliance in Blogging 2015: raising awareness of IUGR, birth trauma and maternity matters

I wasn’t sure I wanted to write this, and I am still not really that sure either. But when we were told that our beautiful Elsie Rose (at that point unnamed, simply The Poppyseed) was an IUGR baby and likely to be born very early and very sick, I made a promise to myself. To learn all that I could about IUGR. To be strong. To talk to the doctors with knowledge and confidence. To be her advocate. Her strongest supporter.

To never give up.

Brilliance in Blogging 2015: raising awareness of IUGR,, birth trauma and maternity matters~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

We were told at 31 weeks that there was reduced blood flow through the cord and that our precious little Poppyseed was not getting enough oxygen or nutrients. She was not growing as she should be; my body was failing her and there was little I could do. We lived on a knife edge for many weeks. Constant trips to the hospital for growth scans, doppler scans, and CTG monitoring for reduced movements. I used to lie in bed at night with my hand over my bump and will my baby to be ok. To kick just once. To move. To fight.

And she did. She continued to grow, slowly, and we continued to learn. With support from the IUGR awareness group and Facebook support group. With support from other parents who had been through the same. We continued to tell our family and friends what was happening and why, whilst at the same time trying to understand it all. Why our baby was not growing and what it might mean for the future. We began to prepare for an early delivery, pushed dreams for a VBAC aside and concentrated on what it would mean to have a premature baby.MBrilliance in Blogging 2015: raising awareness of IUGR,, birth trauma and maternity matters~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

And when 34 weeks came and went and we were told that our pregnancy could continue a little longer, I knew that I needed to write it all. I needed to document our experience for our own peace of mind, and then later perhaps for other parents who might be going through similar things.

This blog has always been my little space. My place to write about my son, and what happened with his birth. His reflux. My struggle to cope with PTSD and all the rubbish that came after he burst into the world. A corner of the internet to record my pregnancy with his little sister, his most loyal defender. The activities we’ve enjoyed. And then Elsie.

The Hypermemsis Gravidarum.

The planned VBAC.

The end of the VBAC dream.

IUGR.

Brilliance in Blogging 2015: raising awareness of IUGR,, birth trauma and maternity matters~ Ghostwritermummy.co.ukAnd now, tongue tie, reflux and the struggles of the postnatal period.

I have written all of this for me, but if there is just one person that might find what I write and take comfort from it then what I do here suddenly has new purpose. If I want people to know about birth trauma, Maternity Matters, IUGR and Hypermemesis Gravidarum, then I must ask them to consider voting for me.

The 2015 Brilliance in Blogging awards are now open for nominations and to receive a vote in best writer and family category would mean the world to me. And hopefully another parent going through the uncertainty of IUGR and the agony of birth trauma might also read my story, and know that they are not alone.

If you would like to vote for me in best writer category, thank you. If you think I fit better into family category, thank you. The nomination form is here.

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12 Comments

    • ghostwritermummy
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      March 22, 2015 / 9:18 pm

      Thank you so much, that really means a lot x x

  1. March 22, 2015 / 11:10 pm

    You’d be a very worthy winner. And what a place to look back on as your gorgeous Elsie Rose grows bigger and stronger and gets past the reflux / tricky period. I’m sure this blog has been a source of inspiration to many and will continue to be so. xx
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      March 23, 2015 / 8:22 am

      Ah Molly thank you so much, that means a lot to me x x x

  2. March 23, 2015 / 11:47 pm

    What a strong woman you are and how many readers you will have inspired and supported.
    I am not commenting on the BIBs as a member of BritMums team
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      March 26, 2015 / 10:02 pm

      Thank you so much Kate x x x

  3. March 24, 2015 / 8:14 am

    You’re a real fighter, and so is your little angel. I will be nominating you. Good luck!

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      March 26, 2015 / 10:01 pm

      Thank you so much, that is very kind x x x

  4. March 26, 2015 / 9:05 am

    I’m so glad you wrote about all of this, it was your blog about csections that’s really helped me after Z. It helped me realise all the feelings and anxiety I had about it was normal and without this blog I’m not sure I would have got through it. I’m really glad you’re writing about IUGR too. I’d never even heard of it before and I’m sure there may be some women going through this who will find this and find it a huge comfort to read. xx

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      March 26, 2015 / 9:54 pm

      Thank you so much, what a wonderful thing to say. I am so glad you’ve found my blog helpful- you’ve made my day 🙂 x x

  5. March 26, 2015 / 12:49 pm

    I wasn’t even aware of what IUGR until I clicked on your link, so yes, I think it’s important too to keep writing about it. It is so true. information is power. I’m just glad that things did pan out well in the end, for you and your little girl. Good luck with the BiB! #loudnproud.
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    • ghostwritermummy
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      March 26, 2015 / 9:50 pm

      Thank you!

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