We need to talk about HG.
It shouldn’t take a duchess to make people aware. It shouldn’t take a team of royal doctors and a nation obsessed to highlight the hell that hundreds of women are going through RIGHT NOW.
It should be enough that just one woman you know has lived through this. It should be enough that she has had tubes and wires coming in and out of her weakened body.
She has spent hours and hours and hours holding her head so still for fear that she may vomit again.
She has spent hours and hours and hours crying silently, her body unable to even make tears.
She nay even have spent hours and hours and hours thinking wishing dismissing thoughts of a termination. Back and forth, back and forth.
It shouldn’t take a duchess to let people know that HG is a problem. But it does. And since it does, let’s do this. Let’s talk about it.
Let’s not ignore the women who put their lives on hold for months and months. Let’s not ignore the women who cannot lift their head from their pillows but would move heaven and earth to protect their unborn babies. Let not ignore the fact that there is SO much you can do to help, right now.
Don’t offer her ginger. Don’t ask her if she’s tried sea sickness bands. Don’t frown upon the pills and IVs that are keeping her alive.
Instead, fold her laundry. Collect the kids from school and take them to the park for an hour. Make the dinner and clean her bathroom. Hold her hand. Show her you’re there. You might not fully understand, but you’re there.
And talk. Try to understand what it’s like for her. Listen. She might not say much but she is speaking volumes. Be there for her to catch the tears as they fall, her heart as it breaks. Because the day to day agony of HG will end, and the days that follow will be flavoured with the compassion and kindness that you showed her when she was ready to fall.
We need to talk about HG and we may as well do it now.
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