We need to talk about HG

We need to talk about HG.

It shouldn’t take a duchess to make people aware. It shouldn’t take a team of royal doctors and a nation obsessed to highlight the hell that hundreds of women are going through RIGHT NOW.

We need to talk about HG~Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

art work courtesy of Brenda

It should be enough that just one woman you know has lived through this. It should be enough that she has had tubes and wires coming in and out of her weakened body.

She has spent hours and hours and hours holding her head so still for fear that she may vomit again.

She has spent hours and hours and hours crying silently, her body unable to even make tears.

She nay even have spent hours and hours and hours thinking wishing dismissing thoughts of a termination. Back and forth, back and forth.

It shouldn’t take a duchess to let people know that HG is a problem. But it does. And since it does, let’s do this. Let’s talk about it.

Let’s not ignore the women who put their lives on hold for months and months. Let’s not ignore the women who cannot lift their head from their pillows but would move heaven and earth to protect their unborn babies. Let not ignore the fact that there is SO much you can do to help, right now.

Don’t offer her ginger. Don’t ask her if she’s tried sea sickness bands. Don’t frown upon the pills and IVs that are keeping her alive.

Instead, fold her laundry. Collect the kids from school and take them to the park for an hour. Make the dinner and clean her bathroom. Hold her hand. Show her you’re there. You might not fully understand, but you’re there.

And talk. Try to understand what it’s like for her. Listen. She might not say much but she is speaking volumes. Be there for her to catch the tears as they fall, her heart as it breaks. Because the day to day agony of HG will end, and the days that follow will be flavoured with the compassion and kindness that you showed her when she was ready to fall.

We need to talk about HG and we may as well do it now.

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  1. June 11, 2015 / 1:58 pm

    Great post Suzanne. I know people who have gone through this and it is truly awful. We all need to know more about it and how we can help xx
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  2. June 11, 2015 / 3:07 pm

    I remember my aunt saying “oh is that what you’ve got” when the world found out about Kate’s HG,I couldn’t decide whether to be angry that she somehow made it an “illness that existed” or happy that finally people started to understand.There needs to be so much more awareness xx
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  3. June 12, 2015 / 10:11 am

    I completely agree about the women who put their lives on hold – I also think it has consequences after the baby is born too. You just feel distant from what you have missed out on and also what you have gone through. Brilliant post Suzanne x
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  4. June 12, 2015 / 10:50 am

    It’s amazing how women still have to fight for this isn’t it? I only had a touch of bad morning sickness and wow I could have curled up on the bathroom floor and just clutched my stomach and head for 5 mins every day. I have no idea how a poor woman with HG must be feeling. Brilliant post x

  5. June 12, 2015 / 8:06 pm

    Really fantastic post. I have to say before kids I knew nothing about it and in fact, thought morning sickness just happened in the morning. I do think that our generation is more open about pregnancy and motherhood challenges thanks in no small part to th internet and campaigns like this one!
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  6. June 13, 2015 / 10:37 pm

    This is such a powerful and moving post, Susanne. HG is such a terrible thing to go through and it the women who go through it are so strong and brave. A very dear friend of mine recently had no choice but to terminate as she has a heart condition and had HG – it nearly took her life. It is so important for women to keep talking about it and raising awareness xxx
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  7. June 16, 2015 / 12:29 pm

    Congratulations on being a MADS finalist, and thanks for sharing such a great post. HG sounds like wearing condition that has long lasting effects. It’s a shame any woman has to experience this 🙁
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    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 17, 2015 / 10:04 pm

      Ah thank you. Yes I agree- its an awful condition to suffer with and while I was lucky many are not. More needs to be done to raise awareness x x x

  8. June 20, 2015 / 10:18 pm

    I have been very lucky to have barely suffered with any sickness at all in both my pregnancies. It’s only through reading blogs like yours that I have become aware of HG and you’re right, there definitely needs to be more awareness and support for women (and their families) who are going through pregnancies affected by HG.
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  9. Ayo
    June 22, 2015 / 5:16 pm

    Unfortunately I am one of those suffering from HG, this is my 7th addmisson. I don’t even know where to start from, the nurses are the worst, most of them have no clue about HG, words that comes out of their mouth is appalling, like why are you always dehydrated, don’t you drink water. Have you tried ginger? Someone even said am taking too much anti sickness meds, like I have a choice. Just hoping every day that this nightmare will be over.

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      June 23, 2015 / 9:25 pm

      I am so sorry you#re suffering. HG is truly truly awful I hope that you have help and support around you and that you are able to lean on friends and family. Please do get in touch with Pregnancy Sickness Support, they were a lifesaver for me x x x

    • tristyjoy
      November 30, 2015 / 3:29 pm

      I highly recommend
      A. Not listening to them
      B. Change doctors/hospitals to find people who take you seriously.
      It’s like they don’t seem to GET that this could seriously damage or KILL either or both of you if not treated (sorry, not trying to scare you!!) and you have every right to have people taking care of you that will actually treat your bullet wound instead of giving you a bandaid and saying “it’s not really that bad!”
      You’re doing great, mama! You’ll get through this! 🙂 <3

      • ghostwritermummy
        Author
        December 9, 2015 / 12:54 pm

        Great advice. I agree completely x

  10. Gemma Fox
    June 26, 2015 / 12:15 pm

    Hi Susanne, this post hit a raw nerve for me and brought on an unexpected blub! My Suzy is 20 months now, and the hell I went through for the first half of my pregnancy is a distant, but very painful memory. I wish back then I could have been given a snapshot of how wonderful life would be with my 2 little girls, as it may have helped me persevere. I still, and always will, feel guilty about considering terminating my planned and very much wanted baby. I also know I was pushed beyond what my body is made to cope with and I am very lucky that somehow, I was able to withstand what I was going through and recover. Anyone suffering HG now, please hold on to that light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how tiny and far away it may seem. xxx

  11. Alison
    June 27, 2015 / 9:54 am

    Gosh that post just made me cry. Am 33 weeks with my second and after 2 hospital admissions and meds for the past 30 weeks my name is Alison and I have hg. I am a full time infants teacher, mummy to a teen and thank heavens the meds stop me vomitting but I feel sick every second of the day and night and my life is completely different to before. So much more needs to be said about hg x

  12. November 30, 2015 / 7:46 pm

    This is a great post and I so agree with it. Why is this condition so poorly understood and talked about. I am in the middle of my HG pregnancy. Sometimes I feel it’s never going to end. Very few people understand. I have even had a medical health professional tell me she was going to refer me to a mental health worker and my children to social services as I am apparently ‘not coping with my pregnancy’. Her words tore at my heart. I am a perfectly normal mum of two in a professional job with absolutely no mental health issues and a desperate desire for my very much wanted baby to arrive safely. However I am suffering from HG. And those that understand the condition know that it is impossible to maintain normal functioning. Why are we women made to feel so bad? I am taking the same medication as someone suffering chemotherapy. Would a medical professional tell someone with cancer that they were going to be referred to a mental health worker or social services? No, they would (rightly so) be given all the help they needed and be treated with the respect they deserved. It’s just so sad.

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      December 9, 2015 / 12:53 pm

      Oh my goodness I am so sorry that you have been treated this way. HG needs to be understand a lot better, especially by those in the medical profession. Its really not on for women to be treated this way! I really hope that you will be able to get the support you need. Hang in there, you can get through this x x x

  13. September 16, 2016 / 4:39 pm

    hi, can i use your pic in my blog? i’m writing about my experience in hyperemesis for 4 months. i cant eat and drink. i keep vomit. i drop my weight from 48 to 42kg. thanks before

    • ghostwritermummy
      Author
      October 22, 2016 / 7:12 am

      I’m so sorry I missed this and sorry you’re suffering so much. The picture isn’t mine, I had permission to use it from the artist. Sorry x x

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