If you’ve read my birth story post you’ll know what happened when my son was born. If you’ve read this post, you’ll know that his birth is the reason why ghostwritermummy is here today. Writing this blog is a kind of therapy for me and since publishing my birth story I have been in contact with many other women who have experienced some kind of birth trauma. While I do not want my blog to be solely about birth trauma, it is a large part of who I am today and it is a subject that it painfully close to my heart now. Reading the many other traumatic birth stories brings it home to me how easily it can all go wrong, how precious life is and how easily we can take chidlbirth for granted when we do not know how frightening it can be.
I used to envy people who have had a ‘normal’ delivery. I know now that there is no such thing. Every birth is different and painful -physically and emotionally- in different ways and it is the methods we choose to deal with events that shape us and our perceptions of what happened. Perhaps I did catastrophise my son’s birth, especially in the first few days when I was full of pain killers and drowning in the baby blues. Perhaps not.
I decided that a separate page was necessary for this subject as there are a few women who have agreed to allow me to link to their blogs and their own stories about birth trauma; I don’t want birth trauma to be the main focus of my blog but I don’t want these stories to be missed.
There are many more posts that I want to write and hopefully I will find the courage to do that. In the meantime, please take the time to read these birth stories.
Mummy Beadzoid’s story
Not Even a Bag of Sugar’s story
Over The Hill Mum’s story
Crazy Mum of 3’s story and her story of the aftermath.
There is an open discussion on my facebook page if you would like to contribute, or if you would like your story to be added.
** Alyson at Alyson’s blog has very kindly shared one of her birth stories with me. Please read her story here.
Kylie at Not Even A Bag of Sugar has also very kindly written a guest post for me, The Aftermath, in which she talks about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A lovely, honest post.
I have written a guest post for Nicki at Curly and Candid, A Nice Cup of Tea. Its all about the kindness of one midwife at the hospital when my son was born- my account of MY aftermath.
Read my opinion on NHS Birth Trauma Counsellors
Read my experience of Induction in I Was Pregnant For Almost Ten Months
Midwife shortages are still a real problem
The first Scan
Saying goodbye to the past