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Five Easy Ways to Make the World a Better Place

As we approach the end of another year, it’s important to look back on the events and achievements of the past year. From personal successes to opportunities for growth and development, every year contains a multitude of memories to look back on fondly. However, soon we will be entering a new year, and with a new year comes a fresh slate, ready for us to start again and work towards making 2018 as good as it can possibly be.

But it’s not just personal goals and targets that we should be working towards – instead, we should try to make a real change and do what we can to help the world become a better place. Of course, changing the world doesn’t happen overnight, which is why it is more important than ever to find some small way in which you can really help to make a difference.

To give you some inspiration and help you get started, here are five easy ways in which you can commit to making the world a better place. (more…)

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Forty

forty_ghostwritermummy.co.ukForty. Forty! I’m now officially forty. And I know that this is just a number, no reflection on me or how I look, how I feel, blah blah blah… but it does matter. It matters to me. I am forty! It feels like a huge milestone, a destination in a place I wasn’t ready for yet. The end of my thirties being the end of a road trip I was really starting to enjoy. And who’s to say that forty won’t be just as ok? It’s just that it sounds… old. I don’t want to be 40. I really don’t. But here we are. And after much deliberating, much denial and much refusal, I am having a party! Over a week late, but a party none the less. I figured that seeing as I can’t do anything about turning 40 (we all get there in the end, don’t we?) then I will damn well celebrate it instead. And in doing that, I realised there are a lot of things I can celebrate right now too. Maybe forty isn’t all that bad, when you read the list of all I’ve achieved and all I have to look forward to?

The party

Ok, so I’m advertising this as more of a gathering with drinks rather than a party. And, of course, it’s bring the kids too- so it won’t be wild. I’m 40, after all. But this is just how I like it. Centre of attention is not my thing, so the kids will gladly take my place I’m sure! BUT there is the dress to consider! It goes without saying that I must have a new dress, and so score one point to being 40. New dresses.

love a new dress. I can spend hours trawling the shops with pleasure, trying on, deliberating, taking photos. I love the process and I love the end result even more. But these days my schedule is crazy. I visit the chiropractor three times a week in the city, leaving little time to work in between, not to mention school runs, the gym and everything else. So online shopping has become my thing in recent months. I’d never really been a huge fan, unless I’d already tried something on and knew it fitted. But I guess another advantage of getting to forty is finally getting  grip on my body and knowing what will suit me and what definitely won’t. And so online shopping has become my saviour, especially now that most of my favourite high street shops also have online shops too. Hoorah! This means that I can browse to my heart’s content at home, then nip quickly in store to buy whatever I’ve spent hours lusting after. Perfect. At the moment I’m torn between this gorgeous gold metallic dress from Urban Outfitters, this stunning gold Jacquard tulip dress from Closet London, this amazing gold metallic dress from &Other Stories, or do I go for the Ted Baker sale and grab the beautiful  strapless fold midi dress in gold? There’s a gold theme, as you can tell!

I am in control of my own mind

Finally, at 40 I think I get it. I really am a strong woman. I really can do this life stuff. It’s taken this long to realise but I think that’s because you have to go through 40 years worth of stuff to know that you’re forty_ghostwritermummy.co.ukcapable of getting through 40 year’s worth of stuff. If that makes sense. If the past year has taught me anything, it’s that I’m resilient. I’m determined. And I’m here. I discovered a technique through CBT counselling that I’ve since used independently and it really works for me. Knowing my triggers for stress and anxiety helps so much, and when I feel that old burning feeling start to gather in my chest I now know what to do. I press the re-set button. I actually visualise one of those big red buttons from the cartoons, and I press it. That doesn’t suppress my feelings, or make them any less valid- it just puts a lid on them for a moment. It allows me to stop and assess the situation, and decide whether or not it really is worth me being upset about it. It gives me a moment to choose a different direction to take. And it has saved my busy school mornings SO. MANY. TIMES. I feel really proud that I can do this now.

I am in control of my body

I haven’t really written too much about this, and maybe one day I’ll change that. But being 40 I have realised- finally!- that this is it. This is my body, and I cannot make it do things it really cannot do. But  I can train it. I can help it to achieve the best, and perhaps reach goals that once seemed impossible. Since the chiropractor showed me my x-rays and gave me the news that my spine was in such a way that required ‘intensive care’ for three months, my attitude towards my body has changed drastically. Before, I was going to the gym and pushing myself but not really taking all that much care of it outside of that routine. I ate well mostly, but I never really understood the proper way to fuel my body or help it along the way. Now I do.

Now I’m working more closely with my trainer and I’m seeing results. From being 12kg heavier down my left side, to now only 4kg heavier- an amazing result! I’m also seeing my body fat percentage dropping, my muscle mass increasing and my overall appreciation for my body going through the roof! For someone who has battled with food, eating, and general body dislike for such a long time, this is a huge break through. If my body can get to 40 and still do amazing things, then I’ll take that thank you very much.

So it’s  just a short list, and yes- ok!- the first one is very superficial compared to the fact that I now know my own body and mind… but this is just the tip of the iceberg. I have a feeling that 40 isn’t going to be all that bad. AND by the end of the week I will have a beautiful golden dress to wear to my party, surrounded my family and friends- and what better way to celebrate than that?forty_ghostwritermummy.co.uk

 

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Uncommon Goods for the Undecided

I’m absolutely terrible at buying gifts. I love doing it. I love giving those I love little tokens that show them they’re nice people; that they’re appreciated and that I like having them in my life. But I am so bad at choosing! It can take me such a long time. I procrastinate.Then I sit on it for ages, believing that my choice is terrible and that they’ll wonder what the hell I was thinking when I chose it. I can agonise for days about my gift choices, and let me tell you- that really takes the fun out of it all! By the time I give my gift, I am a paranoid mess! And between you and me? It’s worse when it’s for children. I hate to think other parents might wonder what the hell I was thinking! So when a site like Uncommon Goods crops up, people like me need to take control of the situation again. Uncommon Goods for the undecided! Let me explain…

Uncommon Goods is not like other online gift stores, where the same items are produced over and over again in varying shades and different packaging. Instead, they’re committed to showcasing only original and creative products that are guaranteed to make gift buying a little easier. As they say themselves: “We’re committed to offering you a creative and exciting merchandise assortment and are working with our suppliers – from artists to small manufacturers – to make their products in a more socially and environmentally responsible manner. ” Many of the products at Uncommon Goods are not only quirky and different, but they’re also made from recycled, sustainable and ethical sources too. And you also have the option to give back to charity when you buy. (more…)

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INSPIRE

This weekend Elsie and I went down to London for the Brit Mums Brilliance in Blogging awards. We were finalists in the INSPIRE category. We didn’t win. But this isn’t really a post about that. Well done to the lovely Hayley at Downs Side Up. She did win! And all of the other winners and finalists- what an achievement and how wonderful it was to be part of the evening.

Inapire~ Ghostwritermummy.co.uk

This is a post about the word, inspire.

Almost five years ago I sat down and wrote my first post on this blog. Words that had been hiding inside me spilled onto the page. A few months later I found myself a finalist in the MAD blog awards, 2011. The category? Inspire.

I don’t know that I do inspire. I write honestly about the things that I have experienced. I hope that my writing is a little like reaching out to hold your hand sometimes. A little like showing you my shoulder and letting you cry there. A little like I am walking down the same path as you, or at least clearing the way for you to make your journey.  (more…)

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