Why, oh WHY do we shame the post birth body? Why do we wait eagerly for women to return to ‘their normal selves’ once their baby is born? There is no normal self now! There is no returning to life as it was before. There is no point in wishing you could go back either. The post birth body is a super hero! Why do we want to change it?
I recently witnessed a conversation about a new mum, who is no doubt desperately in love with her new baby and hopefully thinking of far more important things than the size of her jeans. Such as keeping her baby alive, filling her baby with love and nourishment and maybe even tending to her own basic needs at some point too. Hopefully she was not thinking about the size of her body now, the work she has ahead of her to ‘get back to normal’ or the fact that her size 8 jeans are most likely to remain at the back of the wardrobe for the rest of eternity.
How dare we?
How dare we do this to new mums? How dare we take away what they have done, and reduce it to what we think they should look like. Never mind what they are like as a person, as long as they are inoffensive to unrealistic material ideals… Never mind the fact that they have recently grown a human being inside their body. Never mind the fact that their body is now feeding that baby. Keeping a person alive! Providing nourishment, nutrition and love! Whether you breastfeed or not, your body doesn’t stop after birth. It produced milk. It keeps on going. That is the body’s way of telling the world that there are far more amazing things happening right now….